tips in getting wife/gf interested in sex toys

[kokboy]

my wife and i used to enjoy sex a lot, but as with many married couples - work and kids eventually caught up with our sex life and it began to go a bit downhill. And now, I'm basically trying to seek some tips to spice back our sex life,

my better half is relatively conservative. in the past, we usually get into some foreplay and went on to business. we managed to inject some excitement by introducing the idea of watching porn together and raising the mood. it went relatively well - she didn't quite like BBBJ, but the introduction of porn (and some home-made ones) gradually opened up her mind. After that, i did get to enjoy BBBJ once in a while.

However, situation would soon gets back where it used to be and even downhill. Sex becomes rarer. Usual rejection is due to tiredness, and understandably so, as she does work till quite late frequently at times.

Recently, we chanced upon some porn showing a woman satisfying herself with a dildo (obviously, it was an attempt from me to try and get her interested *wink*). I joked about getting one for her so that she could play with it, and there wasn't any violent objection from her. So, I thought it is a Go and I proceeded to get one and spice it up again. Unfortunately, it didn't pan out as planned - she rejected it when I showed it to her.

trying to seek some tips on fellow sbf bros and sis on how to get the idea started.
What are the usual repulsions to sex toys and how to possibly overcome them.
really appreciate some advice on this.

[therunnngman]

buy one for yourself and ask her to help you play with it. lol

[VoicesWithin]

Been there done that. It's not going to work bro. Bought one too. Partner rejected it. They dun want an object inside their privates, period. Those porn stars using vibrator is for show. Not applicable to working mothers. There are women I know that use vibrators. But they have very high sex drives and their hubs are not feeding them hence they use vibrators.

You are better off heading in the other direction. Find a time she is not tired from work and kids e.g weekends. Do the chores for her. Then she may be in a better mood to bonk

[balo987]

can try use durex play vibration ring during bonking to let her have a feel of it

[sexcision]

My wife rejects dildo saying that it feels weird having that stick inside her, she prefer the real thing. But she is receptive to vibrating eggs to be use to stimulate externally. This vibrating egg also shorten significantly the time needed for foreplay. She will be wet enough within 5 min of so with the vibrating eggs and me suckling on her breast. Plus, she is achieving 100% orgasm for our session, big or small. Thank God for this invention! Lol

[purepulp]

Ok first and foremost, women pleasuring themselves with a dildo is an act that panders to what men would like to see. I believe the term for these sort of acts is called porn.

Most women in real life do not like dildos. In fact a vast majority of women prefer clitoral stimulation with vibrators over fucking themselves silly with a big fat dildo. That my friends is for the camera and a work of fiction although there are bound to be exceptions.

So the things to overcome are:

1) Removing the 'shame' of masturbation.
2) Choosing the right toy i.e look of the toy, material, function, intensity etc depending on how sensitive she is.

As you can see, and as you probably already know, there are a ton of options so selecting the right toy is via trail and error and should be done together.

[kokboy]

thanks everyone for chipping in your point of views. really appreciate them.
the bottomline of exploring toys is really to try something different and hopefully rekindle some excitement in our sex life.
I guess I'll just have to park that dildo aside and get back to the drawing board, but in consultation with my better half.

[sammy124]

If not really comfortable with dildo or something foreign inside, how about vibrator or clitoral sucking toys?

Never tried, heard it's good
https://shopee.sg/Tracy%27s-Dog-Clit...259.2062342642

[purepulp]

Originally Posted by sammy124

If not really comfortable with dildo or something foreign inside, how about vibrator or clitoral sucking toys?

Never tried, heard it's good
https://shopee.sg/Tracy%27s-Dog-Clit...259.2062342642

I doubt so... because that sucker part is 1 size fit all and unless it fits perfectly over the right-sized clit, otherwise I think it would either be too painful or no feeling?

Best is still human lips... thats a custom fit to whatever size or contours