making love after a long time.

[NewEra]

So, after being single for a long time (more than 5 years) i have recently got attached. So all this while when i was single when i need release most of the time i just PCC, so recently when i was starting to make love to my gf, i realize i could not get a erection, i have 0 issues when i masturbate or when i see pretty girls or kiss and cuddle my gf i do get an erection.

So it was quite an embarrassment when i could not get hard esp when my gf was all wet down there. i am only early 30's.

Whats wrong? Too much pcc in the past?

[waaaaaa]

cant be due to too much pcc.

could be psychological. did your gf try to stimulate you?

[yangguo]

Whats wrong? Too much pcc in the past?

Most likely she is not attractive enough for you to be sexually aroused.

Dump her and find a new gf. :D:p

[metamorphosis76]

Wu foreplay bO? Like Oral Sex....squeeze & Lick NeH neh bo? Try get yourself arousal bro... See whether your cannon can marikita bo...if cannot, then bo paing lor....maybe you need to get a GF look like your porn artistes... :D

[exge]

that is known as porn induced ED. it is actually quite common. you just need to change a few things about your pcc habit.

1) don't use the "death-grip"
2) try to include your partner/potential partner in your fantasies when pcc-ing.

Right now, your dopamine centers are wired to pornstars, you need to rewire them. Unfortunately, you need to stop pcc-ing to porn for a short while to let the brain revert to normal. Then when it is normal, make sure you make use of point no2 above.

Enjoy and best of luck

[Boicoyne]

that is known as porn induced ED. it is actually quite common. you just need to change a few things about your pcc habit.

1) don't use the "death-grip"
2) try to include your partner/potential partner in your fantasies when pcc-ing.

Right now, your dopamine centers are wired to pornstars, you need to rewire them. Unfortunately, you need to stop pcc-ing to porn for a short while to let the brain revert to normal. Then when it is normal, make sure you make use of point no2 above.

Enjoy and best of luck

very true. watching porn can screw with your performance in bed. same thing happened to me before too bro.

like exge said, stop watching porn for a month, and maybe try not to masturbate too. lose all the mental attraction u have for the pornstars. thats what i did. :)

[NewEra]

Wu foreplay bO? Like Oral Sex....squeeze & Lick NeH neh bo? Try get yourself arousal bro... See whether your cannon can marikita bo...if cannot, then bo paing lor....maybe you need to get a GF look like your porn artistes... :D

No oral at that point la, but i was licking her neh neh and she was stroking my bro. She was really wet down there but i not hard :(

[NewEra]

that is known as porn induced ED. it is actually quite common. you just need to change a few things about your pcc habit.

1) don't use the "death-grip"
2) try to include your partner/potential partner in your fantasies when pcc-ing.

Right now, your dopamine centers are wired to pornstars, you need to rewire them. Unfortunately, you need to stop pcc-ing to porn for a short while to let the brain revert to normal. Then when it is normal, make sure you make use of point no2 above.

Enjoy and best of luck

Sounds like a possibility, really need to start re-wiring. :( Thanks

[ah rat]

Ts,indeed to much pcc :D

[Jazzy69]

So, after being single for a long time (more than 5 years) i have recently got attached. So all this while when i was single when i need release most of the time i just PCC, so recently when i was starting to make love to my gf, i realize i could not get a erection, i have 0 issues when i masturbate or when i see pretty girls or kiss and cuddle my gf i do get an erection.

So it was quite an embarrassment when i could not get hard esp when my gf was all wet down there. i am only early 30's.

Whats wrong? Too much pcc in the past?

Maybe you have use up your 5000 times... :D

[pleasurehobby]

that is known as porn induced ED. it is actually quite common. you just need to change a few things about your pcc habit.

1) don't use the "death-grip"
2) try to include your partner/potential partner in your fantasies when pcc-ing.

Right now, your dopamine centers are wired to pornstars, you need to rewire them. Unfortunately, you need to stop pcc-ing to porn for a short while to let the brain revert to normal. Then when it is normal, make sure you make use of point no2 above.

Enjoy and best of luck

Our fellow Samster here has hit the jackpot on this answer.

Adding on to it, this syndrome is totally psychological.

You have been brainwashed by too many other visual stimuatations that now you dont seems to find your gf as sexy and arousing anymore.

For such a case, i personally suggest getting arouse by her through other SENSES.

An example will be closing your eyes, and smelling her all over. Her hair, her neck, her boobs down to her pussy.

Add some touch when smelling her by gentling pitching her nipples, careless down her belly and sliding it into her pussy.

This method removes visual and focus your stimulation on smell, and i am pretty sure before you know it its a hard on again. Try it. ;)

[Wallao]

Watch a porn video first before making love.

[Krazzie]

Should be a mind problem. The more you tried to perform the more stress you get the more unlikely you will be hard enough to make love to your gf. As it gets worse the stress got worse the more you fear when shes ready and.. guess what you will just become soft and not able to continue.

Lucky for me I suffer the same fate with FLs, while still capable with my fb.

Understand you are totally capable of making love with your gf and finishing it. Abstain from PCC and porn for the time being until you want to rape her. Then... "rape" her :D Problem solved.

Good luck TS.

[Tundrawolf]

TS why not have some foreplay with your gf ?

[waaaaaa]

yup like some said, stop pcc for some time and when you are horny. dun think u cant stand.

[zan888]

No oral at that point la, but i was licking her neh neh and she was stroking my bro. She was really wet down there but i not hard :(

Ask you. Do you get hard when asleep or just awake? If so then its not a physical problem.

Sometimes we ask too much of our 2IC, of course when young even see a calendar picture will marikita but as older takes longer. Foreplay is essential. New partner add more stress so the idea is just stop worrying about performance and enjoy yourself. Oral sex usually does the trick and yeah you need to avoid porn cos it deadens your desire for the real thing. Good luck and hope to hear you have bonked!

[newyorker88]

Give up porn. Your stimulation should be on real person. Not from movies. Let it natural. Focus on the gal, not think of porn and how they do. They are acting, you are doing it, for real.

[bengeo]

Could be she not attractive enough to get u steam up,suggest u try with FL ( solid) to confirm. If u still experience no erection, confirm u got more serious problem.:)

[NewEra]

I think most of you are right. @zan888 yes i do get hardon when sleeping or awake.

Guess need to re-wire, too long bo GF, all the time rely on porn. I think in meantime will be paisay to make love to her.... wait bro cant wake up again. :(

[sirsickolot]

So, after being single for a long time (more than 5 years) i have recently got attached. So all this while when i was single when i need release most of the time i just PCC, so recently when i was starting to make love to my gf, i realize i could not get a erection, i have 0 issues when i masturbate or when i see pretty girls or kiss and cuddle my gf i do get an erection.

So it was quite an embarrassment when i could not get hard esp when my gf was all wet down there. i am only early 30's.

Whats wrong? Too much pcc in the past?

maybe your work too stressful - like those lawyers and bankers? either that or your gf not giving you enough power haha, lay off the porn for awhile - gives you too much expectations. good luck!

[fatalfacts]

Should be a mind problem. The more you tried to perform the more stress you get the more unlikely you will be hard enough to make love to your gf. As it gets worse the stress got worse the more you fear when shes ready and.. guess what you will just become soft and not able to continue.

Lucky for me I suffer the same fate with FLs, while still capable with my fb.

Understand you are totally capable of making love with your gf and finishing it. Abstain from PCC and porn for the time being until you want to rape her. Then... "rape" her :D Problem solved.

Good luck TS.


Same for me...whenever I find FL, during foreplay, it's hard but when come to the final stage, it just went soft!!
However, when I am with my FBs and GF, it's as hard as rock, even after shooting.

Final conclusion, I can only perform when I got feeling for that girl. Without feeling or to stranger, it jus can't stand long!!

It's all mental problem!!