Love found at the wrong time with the wrong person

[heartbroke]

情侣交往中最忌讳的15件事

　　第一，底牌亮的太快太早——从开始就恨不得掏心窝子的爱人多半是要被抛弃的。别人是尘封的老酒越喝越有 味，你是开听的可乐，到后面气儿都没了。
　　第二，有底线——这句话不是说要没底线，而是你和一个人在一起本来就应该是互相扶持安慰共同享受生活的 ，对方都把你逼到开始预设底线了。还谈什么呢？

　　第三，人大多是恃宠而骄的，别把对方当孩子养——好端端的伴侣供成了神。

　　第四，没有各自空间——自己不给自己空间自然也给不了对方空间。

　　第五，算计——爱多爱少，付出多付出少，算到这一步也就该算还有多少日子可以走了。...

　　第六，双重标准——TA生气你哄，你生气还得你哄，自求多福，不平等条约签订是因为爱情么 ？

　　第七，口无遮拦——别拿什么爱你才会跟你发脾气这样的理由妄图诠释自己的自私与sb行为

　　第八，话说太透——摆上台面说的话，规矩是完善了，情分却少了。

　　第九，三观不合——其实人与人三观都是有差异的，真正不合的人决定开始就是错误，最为可气的是甚至某一 方完全看不起另一方的观念，表现形式就是不管什么情况，你怎么表现都只会听到TA痛心疾首的说"你不要太幼 稚了好咩？"…………

　　第十，秀恩爱，死得快——其实我不反感晒个情侣照的，受不了的是喜欢在众人面前以呼喝对方为荣，以对方 听话为恩爱的表现方式，你这么不给人面子你是在作死你造不造？

　　第十一，不信任——其实我想吐槽的不是某个人不信任对方还怎么谈恋爱，诚然过于敏感人士需要自省。但是 正常情况下你都不能让你的伴侣信任你，你是得有多糟糕？道理不多讲，好好想想不被信任的原因再去对着TA吼 ：“你为毛不信任我？”

　　第十二，永远永远永远别认为自己在付出！！！——一旦觉得自己在付出你就注定输了整盘棋，心态不好势必 行为也不能正能量到哪里去。

　　第十三，距离——离伴侣的好友保持在你的伴侣觉得你们俩根本不熟的位置就好，即不会有姐妹淘私下聚会时 太多关于你的八卦，也不会引起伴侣不适，男女皆适用。

　　第十四，莫相求——求来的不是爱，是神，真想要维护和挽回就去学会吸引对方。

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　　以上一些话说的可能比较重甚至奇葩，但是从特例中看普遍性吧，全都占的其实未必没有，做好自己，无愧于 自己，也要学会爱自己。

[tiredstrides]

I also wrote a letter that I never send to her...
Felt so tempted to... just to let her know how I feel...I still think of her everyday... though I already know she know..

[PeteTsang69]

Originally Posted by kenstud27

.... Being in our current position, we had our responsibilities and obligations. ....
... So what if we get our heart desire by getting a divorce and have the relationship that we always wanted? If that was our approach then one possible scenario will be this: we will live with the guilt for the rest of our lives ...


*The End*

that's your head talking ...not your heart ...have balance true, cannot be one or the other...

but i have personally seen where divorce was the best for both parties to find happiness with others ...or simply for both ending being so cold/dead to each other ...whats to feel guilty about that?

and if want to talk about guilt ... how about feeling guilty depriving your wife the chance to have the kinda love, with another, that you and M have ...
i am sure you have felt, as i have, that ALL couples should have true-love relationship/feelings you & M have

NOT THE END pls ...when was that trip? pls update us till present day

[bigbrudder]

Hi TS, think it ended on a good note. All the best!

[chenpaul]

If M is the person TS love, why is title ".... wrong time with the wrong person"? Should it not be wrong time but right person. How does TS define the other person as wrong or right? Just curious.

[luvuass]

Originally Posted by chenpaul

If M is the person TS love, why is title ".... wrong time with the wrong person"? Should it not be wrong time but right person. How does TS define the other person as wrong or right? Just curious.

2 wrongs make a right

[kenstud27]

Originally Posted by chenpaul

If M is the person TS love, why is title ".... wrong time with the wrong person"? Should it not be wrong time but right person. How does TS define the other person as wrong or right? Just curious.

Wrong time because if only i confessed to her earlier. Wrong person because she maybe the person i love but she is married.

[copper]

人生成功三法则：改变、适应、回避、放弃‏ bro!

[heartbroke]

The TS spoke out my heart.. her feelings might be only an assessment ..but is also what I think is true.

[tuffcookie]

All too familiar.

He was married and I was engaged. We were soulmates. Found each other at the wrong time. The rare shared moments. The hurried dates. The incredible love making. The lies and deceit. It sure felt like him and me against the world. Eventually I broke off with my guy. He left his wife - lost his flat, paid alimony and ended up renting a small bedroom in an old HDB flat. Our luxury was eating at air-conditioned food courts. However, we were happy and complete, our love kept us alive. Waited 3 years for his divorce to settle and we got married.

However tables turned a few years later. He got involved with a married colleague. I saw the same intensity of love, the same passion in him. But this time it is for someone else. He told me he found his true love.

Love. Is it stronger when it is unattainable? Remember that unrequited love, or that crush on an impossible target?

We have since parted ways. However, having been on both sides of the court, I realised we are emotional beings. It is easy to fall in love. Easier to think the latest love is the love of our life when we are united to fight against the world. However, when the love ended on our laps, do we know how to appreciate and treasure?

[bigbrudder]

Originally Posted by tuffcookie

All too familiar.

He was married and I was engaged. We were soulmates. Found each other at the wrong time. The rare shared moments. The hurried dates. The incredible love making. The lies and deceit. It sure felt like him and me against the world. Eventually I broke off with my guy. He left his wife - lost his flat, paid alimony and ended up renting a small bedroom in an old HDB flat. Our luxury was eating at air-conditioned food courts. However, we were happy and complete, our love kept us alive. Waited 3 years for his divorce to settle and we got married.

However tables turned a few years later. He got involved with a married colleague. I saw the same intensity of love, the same passion in him. But this time it is for someone else. He told me he found his true love.

Love. Is it stronger when it is unattainable? Remember that unrequited love, or that crush on an impossible target?

We have since parted ways. However, having been on both sides of the court, I realised we are emotional beings. It is easy to fall in love. Easier to think the latest love is the love of our life when we are united to fight against the world. However, when the love ended on our laps, do we know how to appreciate and treasure?

Interesting perspective. Humans are forever chasing the forbidden, and when we reached there, we get bored.

[PeteTsang69]

Originally Posted by tuffcookie

He got involved with a married colleague. I saw the same intensity of love, the same passion in him. But this time it is for someone else. He told me he found his true love.

However, when the love ended on our laps, do we know how to appreciate and treasure?

hi sis ...

what happened to your ex and that married colleague?

and are saying he or you didn't treasure the love you had? that's ur lesson learnt..

your ex sounds committed enough to divorce, rent small flat, remarry ...who would have guessed it didn't last ... hope you not skeptical about love ...maybe he just can't commit to one for too long ...

[tuffcookie]

Hi Pete

what happened to your ex and that married colleague?
Not sure. Last I heard she is still with her husband.

and are saying he or you didn't treasure the love you had? that's ur lesson learnt..
Both did not treasure the marriage (and the so called true love) enough to work on it.


your ex sounds committed enough to divorce, rent small flat, remarry ...who would have guessed it didn't last ... hope you not skeptical about love ...maybe he just can't commit to one for too long ..
guess so. But that is exactly my point - true love at every new encounter? No worries. I have moved on. There is a huge forest out there for me yet.

[bigbrudder]

Originally Posted by tuffcookie

guess so. But that is exactly my point - true love at every new encounter? No worries. I have moved on. There is a huge forest out there for me yet.

Lucky for you, no kids.

[chenpaul]

Originally Posted by kenstud27

Wrong time because if only i confessed to her earlier. Wrong person because she maybe the person i love but she is married.

Thanks bro for the reply. For me, 错的时候遇到对的人，是遗憾，只能说相逢恨晚。错的时候遇到错的人，就算了吧。