Bro help! i screw up big time....

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by justwanadoit

but will arrange for it after her decision, right now in my uncertain state of mind and heart, dun think i can concentrate on any course.

If now you dont go...then worse thing happen....she decide to leave...you think u will still go??? It wont happen...and next girl come...you slap her again....

Originally Posted by justwanadoit

i am not a wife beater but some of u prophesy that i am.

Now you not yet wife beater.....you only girl beater...if get marry then promote to wife beater...

[ct75]

Originally Posted by Toyota Honda

Let me digress abit. Some bros here says that girls in this mondern days are intolerant of such acts.. I would rather put it this way... Girls in this modern society are now intolerant of being 'mistreated' with ungentlemenly behaviours..

It has come to almost a boiling point where they feel so high and full of themselves just because:
1) They are higher educated than they were before.
2) They are more affluent whether tyhey succeed themselves or siply because their parents are rich.
3) Peer pressure.
4) Too many chee hongs spoiling market.

We men, on the other hand, are getting ourselves 'eaten' up and having to give in to them,.. Fearing them for fear of losing them..

Why is this happening?

I am not asking that girls should be tolerant of we guys' unruly behaviours.. But asking themn to be more understanding and trust..

If mutual understanding and trust is there, our brother wouldn't be so afraiod of losing her or things like PPo against him.

If so, whats the point..
I am sorry about saying all these to make things worse. But then again, its my 2cts worth...

Whatever it is I really dont think it justifies being violent and physical to the lady or anyone for that matter.

[Landlord]

Originally Posted by justwanadoit

thanks bro, u the best among many who advise me. thakns for ur well wishes.

I am repentant .............

I am not and i going counselling and do whatever, walk away from the quarrels to make sure of that!

Clap Clap Clap....Wonderful. PM me and we can meet up if you ever want to lose your temper. I will sit with you and let you blow steam. After that we can sit down to reason the situation out. I used to have a bad temper too but now already mellowed due to age.. Many things depends on perspective. Once you understand them, you will realize that many things are never worth losing your cool over. There was once a famous saying, I can't remember who but it says " The older I get, the more I realize that most problems can be solved by time, if you let them." What it means or at least my interpretation is that most problems can and will be solved if you just walk off and allow time to cool off and things will solve by itself. I am serious about the PM though. Lets meet up for a drink or something.

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by justwanadoit

as this is 2nd time i slap her.

wow you slapped her twice already ah? i suggest she go for karate lessons so next time she can block.

[dirtyhairy]

Yo Bro J,

Isn't this forum wonderful? You ask something and you wil also get many things, all well meaning yet some mindboggling.

OK I guess you have suffered enuf already --besides trying to win over yr wife-2-b again --- and now from the advice overload from none other than so many briothers here. Beside being horny, they (ok myself included) are freaking sex, marriage, partnership counsellors and rage-control experts too!
Is this not wodnerful...u ask once and comes an avalanche of soothsayings!

But uncle DirtyHairy says go get a good nite's rest..., although U cannot undo what's been done, you can do what must be done. This means apologise again and again, go on bended knees if needed. remember send the flowers (a woman's heart no matter how hard, will soften up, unless it's made of stone and yr gal's not, judging by her willingness to receive yr call!
Promise to change, contain that temper, remember the 1-10 routine, (go for counselling if u think it will help...but frankly it's in the mind.. are u really that bad..if not u can shake the aggro off if u folow the 1-10 routine.
Since humour can smoothen things, relax and go get stuffed yrself with jokes and funny anecdotes and try to make her laugh with funny bits. Move on!

Finally, it's yr life, re-think and decide for yourself. No one can help you unless you help yrself first...and I believe you may have lost yr head twice, u are not beyond hope. Go on, log off now and rest. Tomorrow willl be better!
Best.
Bro DirtyHairy,
always horny, most times dirty, all-over hairy...so any good lobang for me..hehehe?

[Vorenus]

I haven't got time to read the entire thread... but bro, you ARE a wife-beater... you have not been able to control your rage and it has escalated to a level whereby you have to resort to violence to express your anger.

The next you get into a quarrel with her you'll realise that shouting at the top of your voice is no longer effective in helping you to release your anger, my take is that you'll end up beating her again.

Hope I dun getted zapped for this, but I really dun think this will be the last time...

[Rexell]

Let me try giving a different point of view.

I agree that it is always wrong to use violence to vent your frustrations. But everyone has his/her tolerance limit. Just like if you keep on kicking a dog, sooner or later it will bite you back. Sometimes, some people just like to provoke you and say very nasty or even humiliating things to test your limit in a quarrel. This is very wrong and it will eventually destroy a relationship if it continues. It will be worse if that person is the one you love. If that is the case, then you both are at fault and you should talk to her and sort it out.

Tell her you are sorry and will try to change and that she will have to help you too by remembering not to say/do things to test your limit in future quarrels. And if it succeeds, pls remember to say things to appreciate each other's efforts after the quarrel. Appreciating encourages people to repeat their positive behaviour. If she really loves you, she will agree. If she doesn't agree to it, then leave her because I think somewhere in the future, you both will quarrel and the same thing will happen again. Even if you keep on enduring and reminding yourself not to lay your hands on her, it is not good for your mentality. You may end up having depression. Depression is very common nowadays in sillypore.

Of course, if she didn't said/did anything serious to hurt you, and you slapped her, then you better go see a psychiatrist.

What did you and your girl quarrel about to make you lose your cool? I think it is important for you to tell us so that we can help you by giving you better suggestions. For your sake and hers, do not get married until the situation gets better.

I hope what I've said can help you and your girl to be happier in the future. Anyway, its just my opinion and I hoped I won't be zapped for it.

[5stars]

All the advice given are one way - all pin-point to your behaviour. Well. When a man uses force on a lady, we will definitely be sentenced - Death sentence. No question asks. No compromise.

As many samsters advised, to show your sincerity, going through the councelling will be good, and to re-assure her and her parents will be vital.

One thing that you have not tell us is your "GF character" - I am not speculating. Is your GF a extremely stubborn person? Does she like to "rub salt" during an agrument? It is good that you learn some techniques for "quarrel management" - during a quarrel, one party must be the "cooling party". Don't go head on - Sure die! To live with someone, you must live with her and "her bad habbits and behaviours"..

Try control your temper.
And take this chance to ask yourself, is she the chosen one?
Can you cope with your GF - vice versa?

There are 2 sides to a mirror.

[Armstrong]

Originally Posted by justwanadoit

bros, i hope u guys dun flame me even though u feel disgusted by by action. i am disgusted with what i did too. I am not a violent person.merely seeking help as i desperate liao.

Well, you really screw up big time!!! Only way out is beg her for mercy!!!

[vkoolboi]

From what you wrote, you cannot control your temper and can get violent, though you will realise it subsequently that your action is wrong.

Not sure how much counselling can help or you are suffering from some behavioural disorder and the loss of temper is only a symptom. Maybe you should consider telling your gf to put the marriage plans on hold until you get to know yourself better. You may want to run through the events in your life that you lost your temper or other behaviours that you exhibit that your family or friends or yourself found it to be unusual.

Consider seeing a psychologist too. If all turns out well and there are no other issues, you may want to try some temper control measures through therapy and counselling.

[sinner82]

i am not sure of how to advice you, however i think if you really sit down and think if she is the one you lo0ve so much you wanna marry, then you should never had laid your hands on her (just my point of view). Since you have hit her, its a fact that you might hit her in future as well thus you gotta assure her that there won't be anymore of such incidents. Prove to her that the relationship between the both of you are worth it. Touch her with your sincerity and be true to yourself and her.
I wish you all the best and a blissful marriage life...

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by 5stars

There are 2 sides to a mirror.

mirror got 2 sides?

[sohbuckkong]

Originally Posted by thomas88

Let me say this in fairness.....you've slapped her twice already even before you're married. Mark my words...you'll slap her even more once she's your wife.

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Totally agree with you.

[chickenzip]

Originally Posted by Castrol

mirror got 2 sides?

think he is trying to say a coin got 2 sides....

got mirrors with 2 sides...those to bio char bo undress one lah...

[Looksee]

Originally Posted by Castrol

mirror got 2 sides?

inside and outside??