Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by HelloAngel
A wife would normally give sex if she is emotionally connected to her hubby. Otherwise, it's difficult. The hubby gotto play his part in making that emotional attachment. Yeah, easier said than done cos most women have moods n you can never please them. Esp after kids. But if you think you still love your wife, then keep trying. Until one day you cannot tahan, then do what's necc. Life is short, must live happy.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by Uncle2015
My friend, don't be too pessimistic. Wife or woman is sometime very right and logical. That's why the society is pushing for more female members in the board of listed companies.
Money alone can't let you push your way thru, else it would be like in China or some places, the children of the rich or powerful, abusing others, hit and run, raping around. When these princelings get caught or confronted by the crowd, they reply, "Do you know who is my father ?" Anyway, nowadays, the masses are no longer fearing these princelings, partly thanks to Internet.
Let's call it check and balance, your wife's view is equally caring weight. Just like you, she has a view and a say in house. This is the result of education, not so much of woman uprising.
If you need to feel upper hand in handling your wife, you need to "overpower" your wife, e.g. most of your decisions turned out to be as you earlier predicted and you told her about it beforehand, let her recognise or "pei fu" your judgement. This is one example. But be careful, this scenario doesn't apply, "You forecasted and told her that she won't use the baking machine that she bought and it turned out right."
But I do agree having more money can make things happen, but not coercing your wife kowtow to you bcos she is not a thing, she is a human. So, you try to play around the resources or "lubang" that are within your supreme command.
Yes you are right to a certain extend to a certain kind of woman. Maybe my ex will be a better listener and giver. Will respect what I am. My current wife is different. Example: last time I am earning more than her and her attitude is different as in she will hear what you said and suggest but sad to say that now she is earning more than me (due to her industry pay rise faster) and she think that she is above or the best in the family that sometimes when i asked her about her daily life or give some suggestion she will tell me that no need to teach her what to do or ask her what she did. So now I dun give a damn fuck to
Care so much about her problem.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by dreamlover2010
Then you find other ways to shoot lah.
PCC on the bed next to her. And eat outside no choice.
But hor the danger is the Woman Charter because your wife is cold liao and won't hesitate to divorce if got evidence you screwing Mei Mei outside.
Very hard to handle. Cock is hard at home. Go outside having a hard time with Mei Mei but thinking hard about WC. Hard truth.
Haha the truth is I long wanted a divorce with her due to her cold attitude and no respect to me as well. Actually had engaged a lawyer and suggested to her already but last min she backed out giving this and that excuse not to divorce so bo Bian had to LL stay put also becos of my son.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by Feronas
10 yrs ago i was in same position as TS. In my case its a character issue - Wife prioritised many things before what i need. This included sex, respect for husband in public, give face to husbands parents (she gives none watsoever), time allowed for kid to spend with husbands family (pathetic). Patience ruled my life for the past 10 years - many open conversations, many attempts. What i have learnt is this. It is not her conscious mind that im having issue with. Everytime we agree that sex, respect, etc is an issue and she agrees to change, the next week when her mind is back to normal and less guarded on the issue, the issue repeats itself. It is thus the sub conscious mind that is the issue. Esp when she stress. Is her life dam stress? We live in condo, maid can help with kid, gt car, gt branded everthing. So what is she stress about? Ans - her priority is to be recognised. She wan to be someone in her career - fighting for her masters degree, trying to outshine others in workplace etc. It is on these things she places priority over me, and unfortunately, its naturally built in her. This is where i feel that for my case, my wife is nt playing her natal role as wife/ mother of the household. It gets worse when she subconciously eat into the natal role of the man. When i look at myself and ask if this should be my life for the next 40 yrs? I shudder - what is in stalled for the future? I dunno, but im dam clear, some things can work out, others cannot, like a fighting a woman's habits
Wow your wife sounded so much like my wife. And yes she also make me lost my job years ago just to show her company that she is capable of resolving matter and eventually she got pay rise etc... Yes she show no respect in front of the maid and kid when like commanding me to do anything! WTF not becos of my son I fuck care ask her fly kite already.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
I see a lot of unhappy marriages here and my advise is, you should ask yourself if you wish to grow old this way? If it's cos of sex that you are unhappy, I guess eating outside can solve the problem if you still love your wife. I initiated a divorce and took my kid with me cos my ex wasn't providing well for the family. I was paying for most stuffs and he took it for granted. Eventually there were many issues and I lost the emotional connection with him. We stopped having sex and there was no more feeling on my part. The emotional quotient was lost. Now I am single and supporting my son on my own but happier!! I am not advocating a divorce but in this real world, we gotto think hard on what we want in life. Good luck!!
17-05-2015, 05:10 PM
