Platonic friendship with opposite sex - Page 3

TheSeeker · #31 21-07-2015, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by dyelook

you very fast hand fast leg oh... looks like your muay thai training pays out...

Erm no Bro..

I didn't know at first too..

JuzKaypoh Sis PMed me so we chatted a little so that's how I got to know..

JuzKaypoh · #32 21-07-2015, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by TheSeeker

Well Sis, I think it's possible..

Lay your card out on the table and I'm sure he would get the message..

How did he take it when you rejected his advances or distance yourself?

He was disappointed. What app me few days later for a meet up n saying he is really lonely. Rejected him outright n told him ain't comfy with what he says.

JuzKaypoh · #33 21-07-2015, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by TheSeeker

It's all good.. ^^ Now I can call you Sis openly..

By the way dyelook bro is a pretty nice guy.. can consider oh...

All frens on forum. All same, right?

TheSeeker · #34 21-07-2015, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by JuzKaypoh

He was disappointed. What app me few days later for a meet up n saying he is really lonely. Rejected him outright n told him ain't comfy with what he says.

Well, if that is the case then let it cool for awhile..

If you intent on keeping this friend, you might want to tell him outright that you are uncomfortable with his advances..

Do make it known that you cherish the friendship and that is as far as it gets..

Hope it helps..

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Originally Posted by JuzKaypoh

All frens on forum. All same, right?

Yup sis!

JuzKaypoh · #35 21-07-2015, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by TheSeeker

Well, if that is the case then let it cool for awhile..

If you intent on keeping this friend, you might want to tell him outright that you are uncomfortable with his advances..

Do make it known that you cherish the friendship and that is as far as it gets..

Hope it helps..

Thanks bro.. Will wait till all matter chill first. Now is too hot to handle

JuzKaypoh · #36 21-07-2015, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by dyelook

hmmm... i am a (fake) transgender... i do all the housework including cooking..

I could need some help with housework then. Maria lol

dyelook · #37 21-07-2015, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by JuzKaypoh

Sorry. I don't Muay Thai and ur imagination really good. Lol

sis... not you lah...
am saying bro seeker..

JuzKaypoh · #38 22-07-2015, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by dyelook

sis... not you lah...
am saying bro seeker..

Pic. Pls go ahead lol

dyelook · #39 22-07-2015, 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by JuzKaypoh

Pic. Pls go ahead lol

lolol.... nite nite, pretty... sweetdreams...

JuzKaypoh · #40 22-07-2015, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by dyelook

lolol.... nite nite, pretty... sweetdreams...

Thanks. Night.

leakypipes · #41 22-07-2015, 09:42 AM

Hmmmm not up to you alone to make it a platonic relationship. The dude in question must himself decide if he can have a friendship with you without other designs.

Personal experience - when I was 17 I had the hots for this schoolmate. We were friends and we grew to become quite close friends. I never knew if she realised I had feelings for her, but eventually I did confess and crashed and burned. That was 2 years after we met.

We stayed friends though. Until she got attached in uni. Her bf was kinda possessive so we didn't really get to meet/stay in touch for awhile. I was a bit pissed at being taken for granted so I kept her at a distance.

Until she broke up. Then I felt shitty for not being there as her friend. My words felt cheap since I walked away so easily before. Anyway our friendship was renewed. I even began to think that maybe I had a chance at more.

But eventually, I realised it wasn't gonna happen. So I took something like a 2 months break from her.. Or was it longer? Only when I reached a happy place in my mid20s that I was able to really have a platonic relationship with her.

We still meet occasionally for lunch. Now the only complication is my wife doesn't trust that I have no feelings for the gal. Oh wrll...

Btw- I have many other platonic friendship with gals. Most ppl have many such friendship with opp sex. But I highlight this particular gal to highlight to sis juzkaypoh that the guy needs to work himself out,just like I had to. Rejection hurtz, but so is losing a good friend.

JuzKaypoh · #42 22-07-2015, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by leakypipes

Hmmmm not up to you alone to make it a platonic relationship. The dude in question must himself decide if he can have a friendship with you without other designs.

Personal experience - when I was 17 I had the hots for this schoolmate. We were friends and we grew to become quite close friends. I never knew if she realised I had feelings for her, but eventually I did confess and crashed and burned. That was 2 years after we met.

We stayed friends though. Until she got attached in uni. Her bf was kinda possessive so we didn't really get to meet/stay in touch for awhile. I was a bit pissed at being taken for granted so I kept her at a distance.

Until she broke up. Then I felt shitty for not being there as her friend. My words felt cheap since I walked away so easily before. Anyway our friendship was renewed. I even began to think that maybe I had a chance at more.

But eventually, I realised it wasn't gonna happen. So I took something like a 2 months break from her.. Or was it longer? Only when I reached a happy place in my mid20s that I was able to really have a platonic relationship with her.

We still meet occasionally for lunch. Now the only complication is my wife doesn't trust that I have no feelings for the gal. Oh wrll...

Btw- I have many other platonic friendship with gals. Most ppl have many such friendship with opp sex. But I highlight this particular gal to highlight to sis juzkaypoh that the guy needs to work himself out,just like I had to. Rejection hurtz, but so is losing a good friend.

Thanks bro.

That's why decided to let him cool first. He is a real dear friend n I hate to lose a good friendship

Edyta · #43 22-07-2015, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by leakypipes

We still meet occasionally for lunch. Now the only complication is my wife doesn't trust that I have no feelings for the gal. Oh wrll...

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i lost some long term guy friends cos their wives didn't like it tho truthfully its purely platonic
i tried inviting their wives along but endup backfired cos the wife got so mad that we have inside jokes tho we did try to explain the background of the joke. it didn't go down well. i know them for at least 10yrs if there is anything it would have already happened. i just faded away so as not to cause unnecessary problem to their marriage.

JuzKaypoh · #44 22-07-2015, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

i lost some long term guy friends cos their wives didn't like it tho truthfully its purely platonic
i tried inviting their wives along but endup backfired cos the wife got so mad that we have inside jokes tho we did try to explain the background of the joke. it didn't go down well. i know them for at least 10yrs if there is anything it would have already happened. i just faded away so as not to cause unnecessary problem to their marriage.

Think that's the best solution when the other half is uncomfortable.

leakypipes · #45 23-07-2015, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by JuzKaypoh

Thanks bro.

That's why decided to let him cool first. He is a real dear friend n I hate to lose a good friendship

if he cannot get over himself... then he really isn't that good a friend....

re my situation... my wife knows i still meet this gal. but we dont talk abt it too much. when i was dating my wife, we did meet up altogether before, but it didnt go well, so i don't bother trying to get them in same room.