Do you regret marrying?

[Ngengheng]

Originally Posted by YELLOW

confirm i regret ..... big time

Mostly Regret la.......even my mum at age 60 plus also regret.

[Shadow_warrior]

heads up bros and sis.

we are survivors.

we might not have perfect marriages, ex marriages, but we have survived.

there is hope for happiness yet...

[Kuan Aik Hong]

The sad truth about marriage is Singapore


http://www.straitstimes.com/singapor...ime=1500347251

[iceman10]

Originally Posted by january29

Same here ... been there done that ....

Buy get shits in return

Really shit finding out with having affair, staying out late everyday, but say she was working.... When confronted her about her lies, she said she wanted out, but she wanted to take our only daughter, whom I treasure so much...

Even though I know she's cheating, I can't divorce her, as woman's charter automatically gives her right to my child, plus my hard earned savings....

Feel like im held to ransom !!

[january29]

Originally Posted by iceman10

Really shit finding out with having affair, staying out late everyday, but say she was working.... When confronted her about her lies, she said she wanted out, but she wanted to take our only daughter, whom I treasure so much...

Even though I know she's cheating, I can't divorce her, as woman's charter automatically gives her right to my child, plus my hard earned savings....

Feel like im held to ransom !!

spend the money beforehand .. or give to parents .. still better ... send your parents to a long holidays ...

i dont have much .. so i dont really care .. and one of my kid will follow me ... he wanted that .. the other one will follow the mother ...

how to split the kids like that ... the bond will break .... this is what i am afraid the most

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by january29

spend the money beforehand .. or give to parents .. still better ... send your parents to a long holidays ...

i dont have much .. so i dont really care .. and one of my kid will follow me ... he wanted that .. the other one will follow the mother ...

how to split the kids like that ... the bond will break .... this is what i am afraid the most

Once divorced the family is broken and unfortunately if you happen to fall sick you have to learn to take care of yourself which I am oredi doing now.

I hate to say this but based on other people's experience the bond will break after divorce. That's why divorce is a big NO-NO for any marriage especially with children. Ultimately the biggest losers are the children emotionally and psychologically.

[iceman10]

Originally Posted by january29

spend the money beforehand .. or give to parents .. still better ... send your parents to a long holidays ...

i dont have much .. so i dont really care .. and one of my kid will follow me ... he wanted that .. the other one will follow the mother ...

how to split the kids like that ... the bond will break .... this is what i am afraid the most

Sigh feel you bro..... really shitty part is, it's not my fault, never had an affair or cheated on the wife, but instead, being made the idiot that is cheated on..

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by iceman10

Sigh feel you bro..... really shitty part is, it's not my fault, never had an affair or cheated on the wife, but instead, being made the idiot that is cheated on..

I really feel for all the bros here.

goes to show those egotistic self righteous women who say they are so great, they have never done anything wrong, all men are liars, cheaters

like this lady.
https://sammyboyforum.store/showthread.php?t=633379

well they should read a little bit more.

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by iceman10

Really shit finding out with having affair, staying out late everyday, but say she was working.... When confronted her about her lies, she said she wanted out, but she wanted to take our only daughter, whom I treasure so much...

Even though I know she's cheating, I can't divorce her, as woman's charter automatically gives her right to my child, plus my hard earned savings....

Feel like im held to ransom !!

That is the purpose of the women's charter

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by jnudes

Once divorced the family is broken and unfortunately if you happen to fall sick you have to learn to take care of yourself which I am oredi doing now.

I hate to say this but based on other people's experience the bond will break after divorce. That's why divorce is a big NO-NO for any marriage especially with children. Ultimately the biggest losers are the children emotionally and psychologically.

Same here...However I find that even with kids still gonna let go too because if adult cant get along I see no point to hang on and it will affect the kids too . Better not to see parents always fight . My uncle had taught me that and eventually I divorced by ex wife because she has an affair outside...I learn to live alone and is kind of enjoyment too . No heart ache and headache . Most important thing is to have $$$$ ....We comes alone and be leaving alone . Nothing in this world belongs to you . Just enjoy the singlehood.

[euritage]

Originally Posted by Ryoshohei

Married for 5 years now, and have one child. Do I regret marrying? Yes sometimes, as I see how other bros out there having fun flirting outside. Mind I'm in my early 30s, so I do crave for some excitement now and then. Also because our sex life has become mundane and not as good as when dating. But to be honest, taking care of kid has somewhat lower the libido; both of us are usually mentally tired at night to make love.

But when you come home to a wife after work, with dinner served, and seeing your child come up to play with you, you get a sense of family warmth and feel that everything is worth it. Having someone to share your worries and be there for you, being your confident is also something I learnt to not take for granted.

I must confess, I'm think I'm one of the lucky ones out there who are somewhat satisfied with married life (albeit the dull sex life). My wife doesn't spend unnecessarily (not those that goes for branded items nor bling blings!), doesn't really compare with others, and generally hard working. So if you were to ask me if I regret marrying, I would say no. Can my married life be better, yes. But I think a lot of effort needs to be put into the marriage, the need to taper one's expectations, and be responsible to the family. As the head of the family, it is also our duty to lead and manage our family/ wife (:

Very well said... I'm in a similar situation as you are.

Wife is realitively good looking, life is getting by, 1kid, young 30s, together for 8 years(5married), wife is not too designer conscious, hardworking at her biz.

Very thankful of my situation... But.........

Life is indeed getting mundane and sometimes we both snap at each other because we've become so used to each other and take each other for granted.

Making love is no longer fun, varied, exciting, intimate... It's more.... Routine... And even that has died down...

What's ur solution bro?

And I both regret and don't regret getting married coz I happen to be 1 of the luckier 1s.
But getting shackled is indeed a little stifling.

[january29]

Originally Posted by euritage

Very well said... I'm in a similar situation as you are.

Wife is realitively good looking, life is getting by, 1kid, young 30s, together for 8 years(5married), wife is not too designer conscious, hardworking at her biz.

Very thankful of my situation... But.........

Life is indeed getting mundane and sometimes we both snap at each other because we've become so used to each other and take each other for granted.

Making love is no longer fun, varied, exciting, intimate... It's more.... Routine... And even that has died down...

What's ur solution bro?

And I both regret and don't regret getting married coz I happen to be 1 of the luckier 1s.
But getting shackled is indeed a little stifling.

go for a naked holiday .... rent a villa in Bali with private pool .. that should do it

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by euritage

Very well said... I'm in a similar situation as you are.

Wife is realitively good looking, life is getting by, 1kid, young 30s, together for 8 years(5married), wife is not too designer conscious, hardworking at her biz.

Very thankful of my situation... But.........

Life is indeed getting mundane and sometimes we both snap at each other because we've become so used to each other and take each other for granted.

Making love is no longer fun, varied, exciting, intimate... It's more.... Routine... And even that has died down...

What's ur solution bro?

And I both regret and don't regret getting married coz I happen to be 1 of the luckier 1s.
But getting shackled is indeed a little stifling.

Find a new hobby.....easier to pass your time, what I mean is something you can do long term without regrets. This hobby is definitely not gambling, not cheonging, taking drugs and drinking. The hobby can be exercising, travelling, fishing, reading, gardening, watching movies, etc.

When you grow older you will realize true love is not just about making love. When I chatted with one 70 years old man, most of the topic covered are about health, family and finance, these are top 3 topics. For them life without sex is perfectly fine.

[richwho]

I regretted marrying few days into marriage. To be honest she is not someone I would die for but just settle down with. Sex is not the issue but knowing I settled for something less kills me. Slowly learning to accept who she is now helps I guess.

[maxsee]

I only regretted not marrying my wife earlier....

End of the day, when u marry the wrong person. You will always have a thousand and one reasons why u should not be getting married.

But when u married the right person, that is another story...