Affair of a Married Man

[catch71]

Hi all, just a quick note to share my experience with a KTV girl i met near end 06... anyone with experience, pls share..... any comments are welcomed... true experience, just sent her home to shanghai last nite. i will not write anything erotic, more to share the experience, not so much to excite bro's senses out there.

I went to entertain some customers in Dynasty Sophia sometime at end of 06...sat with a girl there, let's call her PY. she sat with me throughout the night, din butterfly at all. as we are calling it a nite, i asked my friend / customer how to tip? he thought I asked her to stay the entire nite, so he said 200, which i paid up... not very familiar with the rules in KTV lah...

One thing led to another, and we went to Dragonfly with PY, but I left early w/o saying goodbye, leaving her with some other friends, and next day, she called and complained i din say good nite, and we chatted... few days later, i had drinks with another customer in Orchard Towers, and i invited her along... but 1st stressing that i am inviting her as a friend, not as a customer, so i am not paying tips.... i know i am stupid, but i simply not enough experience in this matter, as i do not entertain so much...

rabba in OT, and finally sent customer back to his hotel, PY asked me to go hotel?? scare the shit out of me - i never stray before leh.. so i said no money to pay for hotel room, hoping to get out of this situation. guess what? she offered to pay lah, wa lau eh how? gave a lot of excuses, and finally just end up fingering her in the car at National Stadium carpark.... she is really aggressive - wa, i scared i cannot satisfy her if i go hotel with her, man.... i wear my wedding ring around my neck, and she saw, so she asked if i am married, which i admitted... she acted disappointed....

anyway, sent her home, and went home meself, after i parked my car, i checked just to make sure no evidence left behind, worried about oc finding out my ECA lah, and i found a bracelet on the car seat.... lucky i checked.

next day, i called and offered to return the bracelet, and she asked me to buy her dinner, as she had not eaten... I admit i also enjoy her company, so end up, if i am returning home late after that, i usu call to see if she has eaten or working, if she has not, then i would buy dinner and chat... nothing fanciful, just macs. she loved the fries at mac's...

not sure if bros out there find this boring, if so, i will stop, not offence.... cheers

[Macallan12]

Please continue.... I am regular at DC .... so what happened next

[X_plorer]

Please continue..

How many bros here married already without a fling? I bet less than 10%..

[cumminology]

Yup, continue bro.

You don't always need sex charged stories to make it interesting. Sometimes it is the journey you take that attracts people more. I find it rather intriguing so far. ;)

Upz ya pts as encouragement. :)

[Regular1000]

Dear TS,

from the way u write and with ur nick 71... i take it u r a 'matured' samster.

pls allow me to express my reservation from the experience if it is a true one. u sounded too 'decent' to be in the 'battlefield' ... let alone dealing with a shanghaiese KTV meimei.

tho she could be sincere in her likings of u; i aint jumping to conclude... but i juz sense that u r not ready to play the game... my biggest concern is that u r wagering ur 'MARRIAGE" without knowing! u r heading for strings-attached relationship?

bro, dun play with fire when u r not fully certain u r 'streetsmart'... suggest u try HC, or even GL first if u need...no offence! :p

my 1 cents,
from a concerned brudder!
Regular1000

[Regular1000]

....however, i must confess that the other evil side of me is very keen to know more! :D

so long u r playing safe... keep ur story cumming, pls! ;)

life is so contradicting isn't it :D :D

[catch71]

it is a real story... and bros out there are right, i am not ready for this battlefield... anyway, what happen next...

regular meetings over dinner, some hugs and steal some kisses, no biggie, and she gets rather dependent,asking me to pick her up from her work place to go home and pick up some shoes, or what ever, mostly, i think both want to meet each other more lah, so each one comes up with various excuses to meet up..

anyway, what happened was once she asks if i could pick her up cos she wants to change her shoes again, so I picked her up, send her home, and we went for dinner and it started to rain, very heavily, so she said her work day is shot, there is very little customer when it rains, so we end up sitting in the coffee shop till late... OC is out of town that week, so when she suggested we go to 81 for the nite, I try to reject, but finally succumb, but first telling her - no sex... she laughed, and said, that is what she has to tell her customer, this is a first for her to promise a man

By the time we are in the room, we are both wet, and she asked me to shower first, I dun know what to change into when i come out of the shower leh, so i asked her to go first loh, actually, my heart almost jumped out of my mouth during her shower, i smoked many ciggies then, and then she came out with only a towel, and told me to go in... so i went, and showered, and came out in a towel as well, well i took her cue...

she was sitting on the bed, and once i sat down, she jumped on me and BJ - raw, but I so scare that i cannot stand lah... bloody miserable, i want, i feel guilty, i cannot stand, i dun want, bloody hell - very confused and mixed feeling lah - somemore no rubber, cos we agreed no sex ma? try, try, try still cannot, finally she gave up, and sleep. i sneak to the toilet to pee and wash, thinking it may help to get rid of whatever germs there may be (does that help? I read somewhere it does..) cannot help it, i try to masterbate to see if little brother really cannot stand?? can only get it to a semi hard state lah... the guilt feeling is terrible....

middle of the nite, i went out to buy ciggie again, and bought condom just in case.... went back to the room, she woke up, scared, cos she say got ghost pressing her down, then again she try to BJ and I insist on cover, she din like it, but anyway, cover, and in a semihard state, penetrated her with cover on, somehow manage to complete the exercise, but feel damn weird lah.... this is only my third sexual partner in my 30+ years.... 1 girlfriend in uni, 1 wife and now this... but 1st affair... but becos of bbbj, i went to pee and wash, scared lah....

morning came, we went for breakfast, and i sent her home before i go off to work, nothing more significant happened, she said very comfy, i said how can? i can barely get it up? she insisted for the brief period, she is very satisfied... i am sure she is lying about the sex, cos it cannot be good, but i am not sure abt the mind, cos i really think she likes me.... whatever... she tells me she likes the fact that i am so guilty that i cannot get it up fully, it shows that i am a man with integrity. huh?

that day, i have to work overnight, so she sms me that a guy offered her 500 to go out, but she reject - i think cos that guy is ugly... said would rather i do her... and basically flirt with me lah... I din reply much cos working, but it is rather distracting, keep on rec'g these messages..

nothing much happened after that till she went home in jan...no more happening, just makan, and chit chat, some kisses, and hugs but no more than that....

then she came back... and we resume our regular meetings, i am self employed, and flexi timing. so i can meet her rather often.... cannot remember, but initially few weeks, i always reject whenever she suggest we go hotel, cos i worried abt std - even with cd, much less raw, which she prefer, she doesn't like cap.... slowly but surely, the guilt disappear, and as i get more comfortable with her, i became more receptive to the idea of having sex with her, she is really really good in bed compared to oc, very adventurous.. but at the back of my mind, i still scared of std, so finally one day, i suggest we go for blood test, just to get the bear off my back, and it came back -ve for both, she was pissed that i wanted a blood test, but anyway, she stop harping after a while...

slowly, i realised that she is not toying with me, she wants to sleep with me cos she need sex, and she likes me, and there is no money transaction between us. I encouraged her to stop working in ktv, and she really did, she started working in a bar as a waitress instead, and i help her out financially a little. i am a typical singaporean, i am kiasu, I calculate every dollar i gave her vs the number of bangs i am getting out of her, making sure it cost below 50 bucks per bang... i know it is sickening, but having read all these horror stories about being cheated, i must make sure i dun loose out mah... come to think of it, i am an asshole lah....

[SammyHulk]

Pls continue sharing ur experiences, imo not boring @ all :D

[Raw_Buster]

Playing with fire is dangerous, once it gets out out hand can be quite messy

[Wins88]

I hope you continue with this story ... I am keen to find out how your relationship develops

[WOOHOO]

BRO totally not boring at all!!! Real life experiences good for you to share :D

[catch71]

knn, type long story than the computer hang... mmm, let's try again, i want to finish with this b4 the weekend..

Nothing much happened after this, we kept up the affair on a fairly stable keel. She is great, and i njoy her company very much. We talk about everything, she changed gradually, for me, because of me? i dun know, but she stopped working in ktv, she stopped drinking so much, and she stopped going to pubs with her friends... but our age gap is almost 20 yrs. i think i njoy hanging out with her bec of my unhappy marriage. she hang out with me cos she was nursing a broken heart when she met me... u noe the story, period late, ex bf disappear, false alarm, guy appear, and wants to resume regular sex sessions. she is smart enuff to feel hurt by his actions, but she still meet up whenever she need it, i guess. so when i appear in her life, it is like a life buoy.

i have a question, do u think an affair result in a broken marriage, or an affair is the result of a broken marriage? Suffice to say i have a fairly unhappy marriage right from day 1. it is not a shotgun marriage, but we do have pre marital sex, and i admit i marry out of responsibility. stupid i know, but more stupid things have been done in life.

I like this girl, and being young, and uninhibited about sex helps: for the 1st time in my life (and maybe only time) :
- I have a blow job while driving down NS highway
- Anal, try, but cannot go in
- CIM, deep throat, penetrate than Oral,
- she musterbate in front of me and vice versa, strip poker, SM,
- whatever we can think of, we tried
this is not to boast about what i get off her, but to highlight our relaxed relationship, and how much we trust each other...

A few things warrent mentioning :

1. this happen in the begining before or just when we started, Once she wanted to go airport to wait for a friend at nite, cos he coming home in the morning and he has no sing $. I dropped her off, and she behaved damn funny next day when i saw her. asked about it, and finally she admitted she slept with her ex bf that morning cos he requested. She felt really bad about lying to me, and cannot live with the lie, so the admission. The blood test is 2 weeks after this incident.

2. she has other bf wannabes even when we are together, and we talked about it. I am married and has no time for her in the evenings, and over weekends. so whenever customers in the pub where she is waitressing, offers to send her home, or buy lunch, or movies, or dinner, or whatever, she is game, free mah. She goes up to kisses on cheeks, holding hands, hugging. but one more serious one, she goes up to frenching, and necking. Weird huh? i accept cos I am married and i cannot promise her anything. I know she is bored, she would drop everything and keep me company if i can get away. But even these things also gradually reduce, cos she say too tired to keep up with trying to please the other man if she doesnt really like them, and she knows that they are buying her cos they are trying to get into her pants... hence these guys disappear after a while.

3. Her family is quite rich in china. when she went back for 3 months, she took up piano, gym and yoga. i know cos whenever i call her and she is practising her piano, she would play for me, or record those avi files of her playing and send to me. I spoke to her ma over the phone once, and when i visit china near her place for work, but din drop by to visit her, she chide me lah.

4. Why is she working in ktv if her family is ok $wise? cos everyone around her is working, she dun mind dancing, drinking, and talking to pple in ktv, and making money, to her it is just a game. in the ktv room, rabba too much she starts dancing, and get away, i know, i tried b4 ;-)

5. Her going home this time is my idea. She was supposed to go to school for her accounting class, but she missed half of it, she struggle to work at nite in pub waitressing, cos nowadays she cannot drink, so she falls sick often. I suggested she go home to earn a trade certificate, then come back to singapore if she wants. then she can work in the day, and study at nite, less complicated, and healthier.

6. From day 1 when she met me, i found out that I am constantly being mentioned in her blog. Her penmanship is good, better than ave singaporean. and this blog was kept up since about 2 years ago, ie, b4 she met me. so it is definitely not being done to impress me lah.

7. where do we go from here? she wants to get married by 23, she is 20 now. so she will leave me when she is 22, and find a decent guy to settle down, unless i can give her a promise. I think i am in love with her, but i know i cannot forgive myself if i walk out on my missus, and kiddo, so it is unlikely that i will marry her. i told her to give up by this dec, cos i hope she will slowly get used to living wo me in her life till then....

i guess this is a case of heart vs head, i know what i want, and what can make me happy, but i know what i need to do, and what is the decent thing for me to do.... although i sometimes have my doubts, i think she is really in love with me, and me in her.... but life is like that huh? Life seems to be playing a joke on me leh?

I would love to go to china with her, as a side joke, i told her i cannot get a job in china, so i cannot go, she offered to pay for all my living expenses, i said like that not security, i want 1 mil RMB first then i go, she said ok....

Guess this should end here, thank you all for reading, it feels like a proper closure to this affair, although we are still talking over the phone, but i will slowly phase that out... but hopefully, i am not being stupid again, she might be having some other men in china, but i doubt it lah, whatever....

[catch71]

BTW, thanks to everyone who read this, and thanks for the advices, or encouragement or whatever. I am okay, and I write this as a form of closure to this affair in my life... I read sammyboy regularly, but have never contributed anything. I have this feeling of shame and guilt in me for soooo long since this thing started. and there are many times i want to end it cos i cannot take the stress of hiding it from my co... but i need this girl by me to feel any semblance of love in my life. My relationship with my co is really that bad.

i am a simple person and have no prior experience doing things like that.... I am sure not all experiences with China mei meis are like this, i think i am lucky this time. however, knowing that i am not streetsmart, i will avoid this type of situation from now on.... but then again i have said it before.... so let's see what happens in future then....

Take care and peace to all....

[BonkingLi]

Bro you have done a GREAT deed but sharing your experience with samsters here coz your thread is going to save many marriages from wreckage by exposing scheming girls out there whose aims are for bigger fish through longer term fishing.

So please kindly do continue..... :)

[Regular1000]

Bro TS,

if this shanghai ger is still with you and your marriage is not getting messy, I 'kar cha' myself...
...but having said that, please continue with your thread!!! :D :D :D

upzz you for getting messy :p

[maila]

Just here for the fun and cheap thrill .... pse carry on bro

[icecum]

Bro Catch71 i ilke ur story very much man, u are the man the story same with one of my bro man........

[cx75]

Bro icecum, long time no see. :)

Bro TS, like your real life experience. Dun get too committed, remember you are a married man, consequence can be disastrous. Remember to clean your backside and play safe. For those Bros who are still single, they will envy you.

Uppzzz you. :D

[AD69]

Looking forward to your next installment.

[Luc401]

Keep it going bro. i can totally relate to that. But like they all say. If you secretly drank some milk ur not supposed to drink, be sure to wipe ur whiskers.

[zl1983]

another camper reporting... :)

[desk13]

Can play but must know when to stop

[waiwaiz]

Go out play muz oso know how to go home hor.......:D

[formidable]

Hi Bro Catch71, my case is kinda like the start of your beginning... Maybe I end up like you now or otherwise ,sigh... Nevertheless, can see that u2 were best frd/soulmate . Great sharing bro. :)

[KKneo88]

Bro Catch71, thanks for yr experience... my suggestion observe more, don't rush... 2 more years befor she 22....

Please update us....

[Deep Blue]

One thing remained unchanged though, TS is going nowhere as long as he is married. With or without the SH gal, I think TS should sort out his internal problems prior to pursue external one. ;)

[joker88]

Bro icecum, long time no see. :)

Bro TS, like your real life experience. Dun get too committed, remember you are a married man, consequence can be disastrous. Remember to clean your backside and play safe. For those Bros who are still single, they will envy you.

Uppzzz you. :D

Agree with you, bro. Married man should play safe.

Dun get too committed. :D

[zoukeeper]

Singapore is very small - i think the best is don't play. all these sms, mobile phone callerID so easy to leave evidence. not worth the risk in my opinion.

[SammyHulk]

Life can b so upredictable n complicated @ times.:o Anyway it will becum a nice memories 4 u. As 4 ur unhappy marriage, got 2 do sumting abt it, mayb go 4 counseling? or sum heart 2 heart talk with yr wifey?

[Schmi]

At the end of the day,make sure remember where your home is

[joew2005]

home is where yr heart should be.
waiting 4 yr continuation on the encounter................................

[elth]

Hi Bro Catch71 i like reading your stories pls continue if there more Thanks :D

[PepeReina]

Bro, how I wish I have your kind of luck:p

[littleme]

bro, gals at 22 in china are desperate to get married off for "face" reason and to catch a foreign husband is the ultimate of the whole game.

So this prc gal is smart, playing her time to win you over and to break up your family. You are unwittingly beginning to see the "flaws" of your own marriage (which marriage does not have its flaws ?) and it is a red light flashing.

My simple advice is to stop seeing or even talking to her. Let her go her way and you yours. Your family is your only close ones.

Believe me bro, been through and survive through what you have been going. Which nice gal will settle for a 20-year gap relationship especially in china where "face" is so important.

Think about it