Sexually frustrated guy

[Thenotoman]

I'm still in ns just for you info haha. So we all have that friend in ns who always talks about having sex with someone he met a d a club or tinder etc. Well I'm just an ordinary Malay guy listening to his stories and I get sexually aroused easily.

About me, I'm just a plain Malay guy who doesn't club, drink, have sex with prostitute but used to have a gf and we only did once. I do pray often but I'm not abstaining from sex. It's human nature so that being said, Im sexually frustrated with myself. I'm not good looking and I can't get girls to go dating with. I lack intimacy in that department. I tried setting up tinder but I only got 2 matches in 3 weeks. No kidding.

I'm still rooting towards having a FWB just to have fun and enjoy sex but lately I don't seem to be getting any luck. Not to mention how horny I get every time I hear my friends stories about his sex life. I know some of you here suggest that paid sex is nothing to be ashamed off but with my measly $560 pay, I don't even have enough to get by for my monthly bills. I do have savings but it's better to keep it for good use in the future rather than I spend it on prostitutes.

Plus I know that there's no such thing as free lunch but I'm willing to increase my chances of finding a fuck buddy at least to satisfied hers and my needs by going out on dates, making friends or even socializing with a group of people. Kind of an introvert cause I hate crowds.

Would really appreciate if people on here could

To summarize:
I'm horny, not good looking, not much money, don't go clubs, don't drink (pretty boring), nsf no money.

But am willing to socialize to work up to something. Anyone here got advice on a guy like me? Or give me some direction to work for it? Would really appreciate it

Im pretty okay with my studies so getting a career first would be ideal but I still have to deal with being horny all the time. I wouldnt mind having to go 5 rounds in 2 hours. That's how horny I can be when I'm masturbating at home alone

[iloveu4ever]

You again...with a similar post and story.

My time durig army my allowance was 220 or 230 and i cld still save money every mth n here u are complainig u no money despite earning double of mine.

U expect pple to give u good advice? Here's one...look at mirror and ask urself wat do u see? Do u see a loser, whinner or a stud?

[Thenotoman]

Honestly I feel like I'm capable but through experience or maybe bad experience with girls, I'm starting to believe that I'm a loser

[bradplay2018]

Honestly I feel like I'm capable but through experience or maybe bad experience with girls, I'm starting to believe that I'm a loser

My advise is simple.

1) if you are a sexy woman, would you like a man that is you?

2) if yes then you wont be here whining

3) if no then ask yourself how do you make yourself more attractive (not just physically but confident and financially) or knowledge.

Dont keep hope people give you easy way to go. Ask yourself more and be true to yourself.

No one give a fuck how good you are like 5 shots or whatever. What matters is the dick that enter the pussy, how much is that dick worth.

My dick worth more than what you can imagine because i work my way up. What about you? During army i been also grinding for money thru ecommerce and read books to educate myself.

Sex is not everything. Its who you have sex with and how powerful you are when you walk in the clubs and girls are preying on you than you prey on them.

[Thenotoman]

So looks doesn't matter but status and power does right?

[bradplay2018]

So looks doesn't matter but status and power does right?

From what i see yes. Wearing branded shirts. Branded watch. Minimal rolex. Wear kept look. Smart. Neat. Gentlemen. Is what appeal ladies.

Looks does matter too. Its really depend. But with money and wealth come charisma and confident which improve your overall look.

Imagine a office worker with a dead sleepy aura vs a business owner with nice rings nice watch branded shirt. Well comb hair and smart conversation turns ladies on. Ladies who you met at club either working lady or so are looking for men to depend on regardless you are serious or not.

Just like when you take flight to oversea. Why some sit economy class, some biz class and some first class. The social standing does discriminate and still make a difference to your life.

Work hard be successful and love will come.

[Thenotoman]

Thank you brother. Really love your analogy. Will try to be successful in life and hope to meet the right one

[IdontKnow]

We dont have advice for giao tors like you. Go dig mud u filth

[thedevil666]

Actually I disagree with flaunting your money just to get girls. You only can scrap the type of girls that anybody can get just with a bit of money. Trust me, these are the same girls that work as FL or work their way up in career they getting into pants. Not as if this is wrong, but u only have limited money and u are not born with it. There’s a Chinese saying, 打肿脸充胖子 （meaning trying to act like someone u are not), how long can u sustain until u are broke?

But I do agree that dress well (not necessary branded watch, car), intelligent (not equate to educated), having manners and well groom works everytime and every girl. U don’t need a lot of money for this.

And for u, whether u Malay, Indian or Chinese. Bro.. u are still in NS. Your circle is as small as your poly/jc/sec school friends. Most fb start from inner circle. Just like how people tend to meet their first gf. Either classmates or a friend of classmates. Until u get into the working world then start dreaming about the sex. Nothing is free.

And don’t say senior never teach u. Almost all of us went thru NS. There’s alws a tua kang Kia then alws hao lian he has this and has that. These people are usually the one that has nothing, but a shit piece of mouth to talk crap and affect others. They act like this just to make u feel inferior! Unless he really show u all the sex tapes he is going to take, take them as a pinch of salt. U really think sex is that free? And girls are all sluts?

[jackyeo]

bro, try earn some $$ in your camp. like giving bj to your rich platoon mates.

[Novotna]

So looks doesn't matter but status and power does right?

When you have status and power, the most beautiful girls will flock to you.
The best example is our PM :p

[bradplay2018]

Actually I disagree with flaunting your money just to get girls. You only can scrap the type of girls that anybody can get just with a bit of money. Trust me, these are the same girls that work as FL or work their way up in career they getting into pants. Not as if this is wrong, but u only have limited money and u are not born with it. There’s a Chinese saying, 打肿脸充胖子 （meaning trying to act like someone u are not), how long can u sustain until u are broke?

But I do agree that dress well (not necessary branded watch, car), intelligent (not equate to educated), having manners and well groom works everytime and every girl. U don’t need a lot of money for this.

And for u, whether u Malay, Indian or Chinese. Bro.. u are still in NS. Your circle is as small as your poly/jc/sec school friends. Most fb start from inner circle. Just like how people tend to meet their first gf. Either classmates or a friend of classmates. Until u get into the working world then start dreaming about the sex. Nothing is free.

And don’t say senior never teach u. Almost all of us went thru NS. There’s alws a tua kang Kia then alws hao lian he has this and has that. These people are usually the one that has nothing, but a shit piece of mouth to talk crap and affect others. They act like this just to make u feel inferior! Unless he really show u all the sex tapes he is going to take, take them as a pinch of salt. U really think sex is that free? And girls are all sluts?

I agree with the latter part of your saying but i think the earlier part

Actually I disagree with flaunting your money just to get girls. You only can scrap the type of girls that anybody can get just with a bit of money. Trust me, these are the same girls that work as FL or work their way up in career they getting into pants. Not as if this is wrong, but u only have limited money and u are not born with it. There’s a Chinese saying, 打肿脸充胖子 （meaning trying to act like someone u are not), how long can u sustain until u are broke?


Be it if its a wife or a KTV girl or a Hang Flower Joint Girl or Club Girl, they are pretty and yes they get into your pants, you fk them because they see you as high value which is true.

To me, trying to act like someone u are not you mean me? I am not acting as someone I am not, I don't have to act because I do have what I am saying and I work my way up myself, as I am not born rich. I am just telling TS to go earn money to be rich and powerful, the world just have social standing.

Why economy class have to queue to go into a flight while biz and other class level goes first. There a reason for everything. Money does determine how successful you are, only the lower earning people doesn't understand this or don't want to understand.

The poor drink beer at club at standing or small table while the rich sit on the sofa with the best seat and drink whiskey. The club dancer goes to your table and dance, it might be fake 'fame' cause by money but money does buy happiness. its true. Staying at Big Suite Hotel or buying branded without looking at the price tag, the term "VIP" come from the different in standing, basically on money.

Money is everything. Be it in SG or other country. And I know how hard those ladies at KTV work, everyday drink is very damaging to body and the amount they earn is about only 2-3k SGD (try drink everyday) and you know how easy life is in SG as compare to other country. :D

[thedevil666]

I never say is u hor. Those who are rich and acting rich has nothing wrong with it. Those who work their way up career properly is also good.

There are many superficial people out there who are attracted to/only apply impressionalism.

That’s what I’m referring to.

I agree with the latter part of your saying but i think the earlier part



Be it if its a wife or a KTV girl or a Hang Flower Joint Girl or Club Girl, they are pretty and yes they get into your pants, you fk them because they see you as high value which is true.

To me, trying to act like someone u are not you mean me? I am not acting as someone I am not, I don't have to act because I do have what I am saying and I work my way up myself, as I am not born rich. I am just telling TS to go earn money to be rich and powerful, the world just have social standing.

Why economy class have to queue to go into a flight while biz and other class level goes first. There a reason for everything. Money does determine how successful you are, only the lower earning people doesn't understand this or don't want to understand.

The poor drink beer at club at standing or small table while the rich sit on the sofa with the best seat and drink whiskey. The club dancer goes to your table and dance, it might be fake 'fame' cause by money but money does buy happiness. its true. Staying at Big Suite Hotel or buying branded without looking at the price tag, the term "VIP" come from the different in standing, basically on money.

Money is everything. Be it in SG or other country. And I know how hard those ladies at KTV work, everyday drink is very damaging to body and the amount they earn is about only 2-3k SGD (try drink everyday) and you know how easy life is in SG as compare to other country. :D

[YELLOW]

damn ....how did he end up w ho jinx


When you have status and power, the most beautiful girls will flock to you.
The best example is our PM :p

[JOGK]

Haha i aint a rich guy but i had many throughout my life
I am not ugly nor handsome
Just live what you have
Sex is not about money
But if you visit brothels of course its money lah
What do you expext? Expect the pros give you free fuck?
So what i mean is join the social circles
You will get your piece of cake
And nowadays with social medias
Your chances are even much better
Dont waste your time here asking
You will recieve many unwanted answers
Go ..go out ..or if lazy ..venture facebook
You will be surprise so many fishes there
Waiting for you
Believe me ..good luck to you

[leakypipes]

TS, listen to bradplay and devil666. Both make solid points.

When I was in NS, i was curious how all my buddies like got lots of money go clubbing so often. Spend time talking to them, and realise that they don't always spend a lot. They're not rich. But they also smart enough to know cannot rely on ns money only. So some will do "alternative" businesses which aren't exactly allowed in ns.

The other thing I realise is the girls they are with at that time also don't expect them to spend a lot. It's like everyone is struggling so they kind of seek comfort in one another.

Of course I had the other type of NS friends with parental finance. Higher spending power. Attract a different kind of girl.

I was somewhere in middle. I wasn't rich. I also introverted. I went out with them sometimes. Learnt how to make my money last and yield good benefit in clubs.

most of all, I didn't think so much about the sex. If I really horny, there is porn and my hands.

You're still young. Don't think of sex as the goal. Sex should be for fun not source of stress. Focus on developing yourself.

[ddog]

Of course, the guilt parody stems from society, culture and religion. Scratch it off, then there won't be any

Ddog from beri conservative family. Then moved out house 16 to study, stepped out comfort zone, become popular slowly by challenging norms.

[TheGreatOne]

Honestly I feel like I'm capable but through experience or maybe bad experience with girls, I'm starting to believe that I'm a loser

Don't worry bro, your time will come

I suggest you go work these few areas to increase your chances of getting hitched, in your case, with a nymphomaniac.

1st. Have confidence in yourself.
People get hitched all the time, sometimes with pretty partners. So why can't you?

2nd. Go work out or something. No gym at least do some push ups and stuffs. Aiya you know the drill. Outer appearance is important. A good, healthy and fit outlook will win you some turning heads, guaranteed! And will also subconsciously improve your self confidence.

3rd. Be hygienic. Stay fresh always. No girls would want to be near someone who looks like he hasn't been taking a shower since who knows when. Shaved or well kept is your choice, as long you look good. Clean clothes at least, branded or not is not so essential.

4th. Be relatively knowledgeable, so that you can keep up on casual topics. Hmm OK thats not too important but at least don't just talk about sex sex sex... The key is don't make the date boring. Zodiac signs reading is a pretty good topic to know more about her.

5th. Be attentive. Scrolling endlessly on your phone during first date is a big no no. Be attentive when she talks and be a good listener, that's a plus.

6th. Be humorous. No girls would want to date a poker face on first date. Keep those sex related jokes for other events.

7th. Be open, OK reasonably. Meaning ie. If your date ask you about your life. Don't give her that 'you guess?' answer. Of course also no need to tell everything in details from 3 years old till now la. By the way, if they cared ask, it only means you might get lucky.

8th. They First, Then You.
Should you really get lucky. Don't go straight into humping to get your release. If you're as bloody horny as you claimed. Just keep your Willy hard and strong, always, is good enough. OK this takes some times to gain experience but the idea is to please in order to be pleased. Take this as your job interview, present yourself well and hope you get the job. (what job? Of course bf, fb etc) Fuck it up, you repeat the same process again. Mutual respect goes a long way.

9th. Lastly, be responsible.
Don't resort to violence to get your way.
Don't shoot and run, make sure you got some birth control stuffs ie. Condoms, pills whatever.

Good luck!

[dazze]

if you're talking about purely being in NS as a barrier then dont worry about it. my wife had a fb fling with an NSF in the past when she was young. if talking about $$$ or looks then I cant confirm if your chances will be hit on getting a fb lol.

[bradplay2018]

I never say is u hor. Those who are rich and acting rich has nothing wrong with it. Those who work their way up career properly is also good.

There are many superficial people out there who are attracted to/only apply impressionalism.

That’s what I’m referring to.

Pai seh bro, cheers I agree with what you say. A lot superficial people are attracted to impressionalism. This is very true, I also have many friends near me that are not yet make it but wear more impressive than me but bank empty haha..

[dodo654321]

KNS. Bro. Just concentrate on your study, get good job and all will be well. Now your hormone raging lah.

After NS in working circle, see if you will complain or not. Wait got money to spare (To spare and not splurge hor) see if got time to spend.

Relax.. enjoy your current moment.

[bradplay2018]

TS, listen to bradplay and devil666. Both make solid points.

When I was in NS, i was curious how all my buddies like got lots of money go clubbing so often. Spend time talking to them, and realise that they don't always spend a lot. They're not rich. But they also smart enough to know cannot rely on ns money only. So some will do "alternative" businesses which aren't exactly allowed in ns.

The other thing I realise is the girls they are with at that time also don't expect them to spend a lot. It's like everyone is struggling so they kind of seek comfort in one another.

Of course I had the other type of NS friends with parental finance. Higher spending power. Attract a different kind of girl.

I was somewhere in middle. I wasn't rich. I also introverted. I went out with them sometimes. Learnt how to make my money last and yield good benefit in clubs.

most of all, I didn't think so much about the sex. If I really horny, there is porn and my hands.

You're still young. Don't think of sex as the goal. Sex should be for fun not source of stress. Focus on developing yourself.

Yes correct some are preparing for life after Ns such as alternative business or knowledge while yes clubbing can spend a lot money especially hang flower joint, one table 4 to 5 ladies all play dices expect you hang on them cause they got sales quota to met. But the earning they earn varies on countries, in the foreign country I at now is 2 to 3k sing approx. But in Singapore some hang flower joint goes a 80:20 distribution which 15k can yield about 12k less rental less permit and agent fee about at least still more than 6k that’s also why attract the ladies to come here to work.

But Just imagine if no hit sales they need fill up the void themself and also the feel of drinking Everyday , ever wonder how whiskey or beer or bomb taste like. After vomit still need drink sibei shag one, if kana suck cock customer more worst that’s why this ladies are easily bait by impressionalism or so call seems to be rich guys to want to ease their life.

* earning refer to monthly earning

[Idunno1]

Jus put your money on top of your head

Think of who u will pay with the amount of money on your head then pcc away

[tsc2828]

Try to work as volunteer.....

Then some gals will approach you

[Thenotoman]

I really appreciate all the comments and advices from everyone. A friend of my invited me to go club this Fri cause he see me so stress in camp and he say he'll even invite ladies over to wing for me. Thing is I've never been to a club and I don't drink so it's going to be very awkward for me as I'm an introvert by nature but able to be seen as an extrovert.

I'm very nervous to meet new people and make small talks. I find it very trivial and tiresome. Although it's a prerequisite to continue on with the conversation, I still hate the fact that I have to chat with people in a loud conducive environment.

But you know what, I'll live in the moment and just enjoy myself this Friday night. Although it's against my beliefs and morals to drink and club, once in a while wouldn't hurt. But I'm still not drinking hahah

[diputs1269]

KNS. Bro. Just concentrate on your study, get good job and all will be well. Now your hormone raging lah.

After NS in working circle, see if you will complain or not. Wait got money to spare (To spare and not splurge hor) see if got time to spend.

Relax.. enjoy your current moment.

Yes very good and valid advice here.

[Sheenymilano]

All u need to fucking do is up your game by opening your mouth and ask
Deal with rejections
Women are not as materialistic as u think they r
U will hunt some down
trust me

[twinresist2]

Bro, I think there are too much for you to learn so i suggest you focus on this one important skill.

Warren Buffett shared, The one easy way to become worth 50 percent more than you are now at least is to hone your communication skills--both written and verbal. If you can't communicate, it's like winking at a girl in the dark--nothing happens. You can have all the brainpower in the world but you have to be able to transmit it. And the transmission is communication.

Simple answer to your problem: Be a master of communication

Invest in yourself by reading books/watching videos then practice, practice and practice till you perfect it.
Your action today determines your potential in the future.. if you dont invest now, you will continue to be in this sorry state.

Good Luck

[Jay Chou]

TS, listen to bradplay and devil666. Both make solid points.

When I was in NS, i was curious how all my buddies like got lots of money go clubbing so often. Spend time talking to them, and realise that they don't always spend a lot. They're not rich. But they also smart enough to know cannot rely on ns money only. So some will do "alternative" businesses which aren't exactly allowed in ns.

The other thing I realise is the girls they are with at that time also don't expect them to spend a lot. It's like everyone is struggling so they kind of seek comfort in one another.

Of course I had the other type of NS friends with parental finance. Higher spending power. Attract a different kind of girl.

I was somewhere in middle. I wasn't rich. I also introverted. I went out with them sometimes. Learnt how to make my money last and yield good benefit in clubs.

most of all, I didn't think so much about the sex. If I really horny, there is porn and my hands.

You're still young. Don't think of sex as the goal. Sex should be for fun not source of stress. Focus on developing yourself.

Up u bro. 😊

[Jay Chou]

KNS. Bro. Just concentrate on your study, get good job and all will be well. Now your hormone raging lah.

After NS in working circle, see if you will complain or not. Wait got money to spare (To spare and not splurge hor) see if got time to spend.

Relax.. enjoy your current moment.

Up u bro. 😊

[Anoeta]

Bro, I think there are too much for you to learn so i suggest you focus on this one important skill.

Warren Buffett shared, The one easy way to become worth 50 percent more than you are now at least is to hone your communication skills--both written and verbal. If you can't communicate, it's like winking at a girl in the dark--nothing happens. You can have all the brainpower in the world but you have to be able to transmit it. And the transmission is communication.

Simple answer to your problem: Be a master of communication

Invest in yourself by reading books/watching videos then practice, practice and practice till you perfect it.
Your action today determines your potential in the future.. if you dont invest now, you will continue to be in this sorry state.

Good Luck

Fully agreed, very nice share :)

[twinresist2]

Fully agreed, very nice share :)

Thanks Bro

[thelittleprince]

work on yourself. i can say with confidence that money wealth and status does not equate to higher success with women.

if you want healthy relationships with them filled with love and sex, you need to work on yourself, it's a skillset you acquire, learned and honed after many failures. not talking about PUA either - which i find really destroys relationships more than build good ones.

once you have that skillset, having multiple partners at a time is not difficult. its like a pull up, after the first one, doing 20 at a go is not difficult.