divorce case

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a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?:mad:

[babyckh]

It helps if you try to put some punctuation marks in between your sentences. :o We can't figure out what u are saying.

[nuclearkid]

Hi bro formatting,

It appears that your friend is not exactly in a position to inculcate his brand of moral values to his daughter by the very fact his own conduct has not been exemplary. But I believe his intention is/was a good one. I find many people learn by making mistakes personally rather than learning from the mistakes of others. The only one thing good about this learning process is that the pain suffered makes the experience a very vivid one, rendering long lasting impressions. But I guess as a father, you would want the best for your child, the question is how, isn't it? Through a respected relative perhaps?

[Rof|maoxz]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do? :mad:

Bro, please format your sentence.

[_AXL_]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?:mad:

errr, both boyfriends together???:eek: kinky...

Hi bro formatting,

It appears that your friend is not exactly in a position to inculcate his brand of moral values to his daughter by the very fact his own conduct has not been exemplary. But I believe his intention is/was a good one. I find many people learn by making mistakes personally rather than learning from the mistakes of others. The only one thing good about this learning process is that the pain suffered makes the experience a very vivid one, rendering long lasting impressions. But I guess as a father, you would want the best for your child, the question is how, isn't it? Through a respected relative perhaps?

bro formatting, listen to bro nuclearkid... u've got yourself into this. what yr daughter is doing now is your consequence. deal with it. FAST!!!

[Mark Lim]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?:mad:

ask her to use condom and dun BBBJ.

[jng1103]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?

Hello formatting, pls "reformat" your phrases or sentences, or if possible, improve ur English overall :p

Hmm... no head no tail... how to help? Ask her daughter to give bbbj? :rolleyes:

jimbo

[anton]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?:mad:

not sure whether you meant that was the wife or the daughter who brought home the 2 boyfriends?

[yankim3]

:eek: wah lan 3-somes. but hor confirm both her bf meh? scaly friends only.:D

[WillamSexsphere]

Divorce are traumatic, more so for kids, no matter how hard parents try to explain their decision.

Therefore, you will have to calmly analyse her actions so that you can go to the root cause of it and then find the solution

1. Vengence?

If it is vengence, then her actions can be easily solved. Vengence comes from hate and the opposite of hate is love. She must have loved her mom a lot and to see you dump her for another women, she wants vengence on behalf of her mom.

Just have an open talk with her mom-your ex and tell her how her daughter is abusing herself. While your daughter may not listen to you, she will listen to her mom. If your mom is the loving and patient kind, in time, your daughter can be won over. NO true mother can bear seeing her own flesh and blood disabuse herself. Religion will be of great help in this situation.


2. Experimentation?
Young folks would love to experiment. More so forbidden or taboo subjects, a sign of rebellion against established order which they will outgrow when they get tired of it, within days or within their 90th birthday.

She is 21 and independent. To stop her if this is what she wants or desires is practically impossible. The only thing you can do is to be harsh and not to encourage her.

-stop her allowance if she is getting it from you. Harsh but effective if you explain the reason why to her rationally.

-call the police if she continues to bring guys home, for you owned the home. The more quiet you are, the more guys will be hopping over to your house and in no time, others will mistake it for a brothel.

You had worked hard to be where you are and deserve some peace and solace for yourself. Last thing you need is your daughter to give you stress such as a brothel home.

She may continue her actions outside or even leave home. But she is already 21. Who amongst us don't love our daughter? but as long as we had given our best to her during her formative years, we can sleep with no guilt. She does have a right to do as she wants with her life.

Its sad, but some people will just want to do things the hard way, not listen to advices, but that's how we all learn the best. Cruel as it may seems, let her confront her mistakes and may she learn from it. Some do, some dont. We humans are complex beings and being complex, we never know what really goes on in their minds. The strong will survive, those not strong will fall by the wayside.

At least her rebellion is now, when both parents are still around. When she falls, she will turn back to the one who really loves her - her parents.

My suggestion to counter the experimentation situation - let her be but don't allow her the benefit of your home for it and more important - BE THERE for her when she realizes her mistake. DO NOT turn her away when she comes back if you truly love her, no matter how many times she make the same mistake.

Cheers.

[-SBF-]

nothing much we can do,it all up to them...can only pray for them

[bignround]

All i can say is that:

He reap what he sowed .......

[no_faith]

hand over the gal to me, i will teach her to be goot.
abv sentence juz kidding only.

back tp topic. afterall, he still her dad. still got the right to discipline her but got to be tactical coz she is in her rebellious age and consider adult liao, going hard on her, might backfired.

summore the bfs are in ur fren's hse, he got the right to chase them away.


honest speaking, itz really hard to discipline kids nowadays.

[Mark Lim]

Bro, is his daughter FL in sammyboy forum ? wow! good offer, can do at home leh.

[bonkers69]

It helps if you try to put some punctuation marks in between your sentences. :o We can't figure out what u are saying.

He's nick formatting leh.......humm...need time to do some formatting first:D

[yankim3]

back tp topic. afterall, he still her dad. still got the right to discipline her but got to be tactical coz she is in her rebellious age and consider adult liao, going hard on her, might backfired.

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hard to teach her in this situation now la. the daugther can turn around and say, u also like that mah:eek:

[Castrol]

if the father a smoker, is it right that the father cannot disallow the daughter to smoke? i'd say its not right.

in my humble opinion, no matter what the father or mother are, they have to right to teach and enforce discipline (their children).

in this case, the daughter is having sex orgies and stuff like pregnancy and std are big concerns. if the parents dont have the right to care, who has? the daughter can disobey, but shouldnt say her parents lan lan becos they are also like that.

[Mark Lim]

one evening my son brought 2 girls home and stayed in his room. i called him out and told him must used condom, dun know whether suan fei or not. actually we have lesser worries with boys.

[spidey69]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?


Bros allow me to edit.. :)

A friend of mine divorced with his wife because of his PRC gf.
Now his daughter aged 21 always bring her two boyfriends home to stay overnight and in the same room.

He said because of his divorce case he lan lan. ( becos he felt guilty to his daughter and becos he has set a bad example; i suppose ) What will you do if you were him?

My england can ? :D

[insanity]

The daughter is 21yr old and is already an adult. She should know what she is doing. ;)

[ken_v2]

Now his daughter aged 21 always bring her two boyfriends home to stay overnight and in the same room.


at the same time?? wow... kinky.

[jng1103]

one evening my son brought 2 girls home and stayed in his room. i called him out and told him must used condom, dun know whether suan fei or not. actually we have lesser worries with boys.

Wow... ur son very "tua kong" leh... Can I join in boh? :p Hopefully u wont be a granpa so soon lor :D (joking nia)

jimbo

[KLKOOL]

actually we have lesser worries with boys.
Unless he bring back 2 boys :p

[temperance]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?

Read liao blur.
No head, no tail. Dunnoe is wife bring bf home / daughter bring bf home / PRC GF bring bf home.

Somemore is dunnoe bring the 2 bf home at same time or got rotating shift.:D

However, I agree that he reap what he sowed. Maybe he should have spoken to the daughter before the divorce. Let the daughter know why he go for PRC gf and seek her understanding.

A family is made up of all it's members and not just the father/ husband alone.

A divorce will always have repercussions on the children, not to mention the reason was because of a 3rd party.

Good luck. :rolleyes:

[Derelict]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?:mad:

Let me try to understand it. Correct me if I am wrong.

A friend of mine got involve with a PRC lass. He finally divorce his wife over her. The problem he is facing now is regarding his 21 years old daughter who is living under his roof still. These days she comes home accompanied with by her so called 'boyfriend' or should I say 'boyfriends'.

He is a distraught over it. If one was in his shoes what is his prerogative with regards to his daughter? Please advice.

If the above is the situation than I would say his right as a father still stands. The point herein is regarding whats right and whats wrong.

Lets begin the rights of things.

the daughter is 21 years old and still living under the parent roof. Therefore for the past 21 years (or thereabout) he (the father) have done his duty as a father to raise his offspring under due or duress (unless otherwise stated). He has clothes her, fed her as well as done what a father should do (unless otherwise stated). Therefore the question regarding raising his daughter should be a moot one.

The wrong of it.

What happens between spouse should never be used against them by anyone. No law nor kins can pinalize them if the proceedings are being taken to the courts. Therefore the divorce is between three participating groups only. The plaintiff (husband and wife) and the courts. What happens to the kids and property is arbitrary within the courts during the proceedings. It is all happenstance and nothing more when it comes to emotional leakage.

Long story short. He have every right to confront his daughter in light of the situation. Because however one look at it. He is still her father.

Now, how he should approach the subject is another matter all together.

Hope u can understand my summary.

[temperance]

Let me try to understand it. Correct me if I am wrong.

A friend of mine got involve with a PRC lass. He finally divorce his wife over her. The problem he is facing now is regarding his 21 years old daughter who is living under his roof still. These days she comes home accompanied with by her so called 'boyfriend' or should I say 'boyfriends'.

He is a distraught over it. If one was in his shoes what is his prerogative with regards to his daughter? Please advice.

If the above is the situation than I would say his right as a father still stands. The point herein is regarding whats right and whats wrong.

Lets begin the rights of things.

the daughter is 21 years old and still living under the parent roof. Therefore for the past 21 years (or thereabout) he (the father) have done his duty as a father to raise his offspring under due or duress (unless otherwise stated). He has clothes her, fed her as well as done what a father should do (unless otherwise stated). Therefore the question regarding raising his daughter should be a moot one.

The wrong of it.

What happens between spouse should never be used against them by anyone. No law nor kins can pinalize them if the proceedings are being taken to the courts. Therefore the divorce is between three participating groups only. The plaintiff (husband and wife) and the courts. What happens to the kids and property is arbitrary within the courts during the proceedings. It is all happenstance and nothing more when it comes to emotional leakage.

Long story short. He have every right to confront his daughter in light of the situation. Because however one look at it. He is still her father.

Now, how he should approach the subject is another matter all together.

Hope u can understand my summary.

Bro, are you a lawyer? :rolleyes:

A whole chunk of it sounds like some court document or a Lawyer's letter sia. :p

[Derelict]

Bro, are you a lawyer? :rolleyes:

A whole chunk of it sounds like some court document or a Lawyer's letter sia. :p

nope. Far from it. If one ever reads documents pertaining to the law or what governs it, you will be reading it in point form. Worse than any that you have read thus far. Remember those documents have to be lengthy and yet succinct. Detail and yet concise. Most importantly it have to be thorough.

[temperance]

nope. Far from it. If one ever reads documents pertaining to the law or what governs it, you will be reading it in point form. Worse than any that you have read thus far. Remember those documents have to be lengthy and yet succinct. Detail and yet concise. Most importantly it have to be thorough.

Yeah, but that was a whole lot of 'legal document' sounding words.:p

[humpcheepang]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife now her daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan. if you were him what will you do?:mad:

Let me use my england.....

'A' friend of mine (the friend is Mr. A), because of a prc gf, & he divorced. With his wife, & now her daughter of age 21, always bring two boyfriends home to overnight at same room (one for mum & one for daughter herself). He said because of divorce case, he lan lan pcc. If you were him, what will you do? Like that can?

[thisisme]

Let me use my england.....

'A' friend of mine (the friend is Mr. A), because of a prc gf, & he divorced. With his wife, & now her daughter of age 21, always bring two boyfriends home to overnight at same room (one for mum & one for daughter herself). He said because of divorce case, he lan lan pcc. If you were him, what will you do? Like that can?

haha ... nice one ..

[machoman]

a friend of mine because of prc gf he divorce with his wife......

bro formatting assuming your friend is you no need to be lan lan la as your daughter is already 21 she is free to do as she wants without parental control the house is yours maybe you have the right to ask her to leave the house. any lawyer in this forum can advise whether can ask the daughter to leave the house as she has reached the legal age of 21? :p

[golden scoop]

....daugher age 21 always bring her two boyfriend home to overnight at same room he said because of divorce case he lan lan...

Bro formatting, regardless of whether your friend divorce the wife, and even the daughter is now 21yo, he is still the father of the daughter, hence I feel that he still has the rights to tell the daughter off not do those things he does not like at home. But out of the house then it is not up to the father to control.

However if the father believes that they are having adnormal sex, then he may report this to the police... so don't have to be so mad...

Cheers:)

[formatting]

errr, both boyfriends together???:eek: kinky...



bro formatting, listen to bro nuclearkid... u've got yourself into this. what yr daughter is doing now is your consequence. deal with it. FAST!!!

alamak she is not my daugher! if i got this kind of daughter i kill myself!

[formatting]

Divorce are traumatic, more so for kids, no matter how hard parents try to explain their decision.

Therefore, you will have to calmly analyse her actions so that you can go to the root cause of it and then find the solution

1. Vengence?

If it is vengence, then her actions can be easily solved. Vengence comes from hate and the opposite of hate is love. She must have loved her mom a lot and to see you dump her for another women, she wants vengence on behalf of her mom.

Just have an open talk with her mom-your ex and tell her how her daughter is abusing herself. While your daughter may not listen to you, she will listen to her mom. If your mom is the loving and patient kind, in time, your daughter can be won over. NO true mother can bear seeing her own flesh and blood disabuse herself. Religion will be of great help in this situation.


2. Experimentation?
Young folks would love to experiment. More so forbidden or taboo subjects, a sign of rebellion against established order which they will outgrow when they get tired of it, within days or within their 90th birthday.

She is 21 and independent. To stop her if this is what she wants or desires is practically impossible. The only thing you can do is to be harsh and not to encourage her.

-stop her allowance if she is getting it from you. Harsh but effective if you explain the reason why to her rationally.

-call the police if she continues to bring guys home, for you owned the home. The more quiet you are, the more guys will be hopping over to your house and in no time, others will mistake it for a brothel.

You had worked hard to be where you are and deserve some peace and solace for yourself. Last thing you need is your daughter to give you stress such as a brothel home.

She may continue her actions outside or even leave home. But she is already 21. Who amongst us don't love our daughter? but as long as we had given our best to her during her formative years, we can sleep with no guilt. She does have a right to do as she wants with her life.

Its sad, but some people will just want to do things the hard way, not listen to advices, but that's how we all learn the best. Cruel as it may seems, let her confront her mistakes and may she learn from it. Some do, some dont. We humans are complex beings and being complex, we never know what really goes on in their minds. The strong will survive, those not strong will fall by the wayside.

At least her rebellion is now, when both parents are still around. When she falls, she will turn back to the one who really loves her - her parents.

My suggestion to counter the experimentation situation - let her be but don't allow her the benefit of your home for it and more important - BE THERE for her when she realizes her mistake. DO NOT turn her away when she comes back if you truly love her, no matter how many times she make the same mistake.

Cheers.

my friend call the police before but can't do anything stop her!

[formatting]

maybe that day drink to much any how post the thread! i just helping out see old bird here any advice to help him and his daughter. well my england:D not that good hope you all don't mind!